it's so strange. i've got this good guy fren whose fiance is jealous of me. to the point of portraying her possessiveness in my presence. I'm sick of it. *frowns*
All was well at the beginning. In fact, I was introduced to the group of friends through her. Then, i met her then-bf-now-fiance, let's call him B. Well, being a people-person, B made me warm up to him pretty easily. And i began confiding in him for many matters, be it affairs of the heart or work-related. I enjoy talking to him, as i look upon him as a dear mentor, a dear friend. I dunno how he looks upon me, but i know he's a faithful man who'll NEVER do anything to betray his fiance's trust. He knows i treat him only as a good friend, and i guess how he feels towards me is nothing lustful as well - just a kind of mutual feeling that is different from relationship-liking. Rather, i think he's just fond of me as a person. Like how some people just click so well with you that you naturally like the person as a person. nothing more than that.
The turning point between me and the lady was after i broke up with my then-partner of 2 yrs back last may. Guys in this group of acquaintenance began "noticing" me, so called. Well, i guess it was like a bird released from a cage - fresh blood. It was also then when B & I became better friends as i started to relate to him about the whole episode of the breakup & such, and after which when i got myself into another relationship. It was saucy news & gossip to him, thus he's always asking me for updates. *rolls eyes* Anyway, basically he listened to whatever i said. However, that was also when his lady started giving me suspicious looks and started to become cold towards me. I knew it and i've even confronted B about it. I said, i think your fiance is very guarded against me! and he laughed it off. sheesh. In fact he's very proud that his fiance is still jealous over him. Duh! i say. Seriously, there's nothing between us! I dun feel a thing towards B! crazy.
When i attended his ROM party, i made a point to really shake her hands, look her in the eyes and tell her very sincerely that i'm really very very happy for both of them, hoping she gets the hint that I-HAVE-ZERO-INTENTIONS-OF-STEALING-HER-HUSBAND-TO-BE. Well, she didn't response very warmly towards that, in fact, she gave a half-hearted shake with a surprised look on her face. *shrugs* i've tried my best.
I'm not being overly-sensitive here really - never doubt a woman's instincts.
It's been a few incidents that really got me puzzled and cheezed off that's why i'm writing this entry. Everytime i see her, i see a guarded face. Everytime i see her, i feel awkward talking to B. I feel like she's very resentful of my very presence in the same room. To the point that these days, i dread meeting the group, cos B will surely send me back while his lady will surely be around and i'll only feel so awkward. i've learnt to keep my distance. and hell no did i ever flirt with him! He's my "complain & bitch" buddy, just like the same i am to him. We unload our frustrations & complains onto each other cos we'll listen and then have a good laugh over it after that. He's just someone whom i feel good talking to about my problems. that's all! what's her problem! sheesh! Damn cheezed off man.
My sis said some girls are just more possessive and less generous about such things and that perhaps she feels i'm not "automatic" enough to keep a distance from her guy. I say, obviously she's just plain insecure and thus feels threatened by me. For whatever reasons - heck i've no clue dude! I've got smaller boobs than her, less of a fantastic figure that she has... What's she insecure about?? I dun get it. Becos i sound less bimbotic & more intelligent? *rolls eyes* whatever.
I can't stand it anymore!!! Crazy.
3 comments:
Well, think its common. Someone I know is also like that. Even when the bf goes out in a grp, she'll kay kay drop by and check on him. HAHAHAHHA madness...
Sometimes maybe the guy should jian dian jian dian oso. Now i dun even know how to speak to my fren properly without worrying abt his fiance. -_-"'
Ya I always believe it takes 2 hands to clap. Much as the gal might be insecure but maybe the guy also did some things b4 that makes her insecure. So the root of the problem might not lie in the 3rd party. Maybe for now, keep a safe distance away so that the fiance can feel an xin lor.
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